@101st CAB, Wings of Destiny via flickr
So a guy (or gal) walks into a friend’s dinner party. A formal dinner party. And he/she is underdressed. Like really underdressed…in jeans, a t-shirt, and flip flops.
But the remarkable thing about this person is that he/she is self-actualized in the truest sense of the word: fulfilled, living his/her potential, achieving ambitions and fully clear about what is important to him/her. Wise, patient, glowing with self-love and love for those around him/her.
Question: how does this person react to being underdressed at the dinner party? Would he/she feel shame or embarrassment? Resentment? Would he/she turn around and quickly leave, or seek out the host to apologize? Maybe this person would peacefully acknowledge the mistake and stay anyway, continuing to feel comfortable in his/her own skin.
No. To all of these assertions.
The answer: he/she wouldn’t notice. Wouldn’t notice at all.
That’s what it means to be self-actualized: those trivial concerns and inadequacies that we feel on a day to day basis don’t even register with this person. He/she is too mission focused, too in love with humanity, too comfortable in his/her own skin to feel any of those emotions.
I don’t know about you, but I spend a lot of my day in my head. Which is a shame in a way, because when you’re in your head you miss out a lot on what’s around you. That, and normally what goes on in your head is not the most productive stuff: negative self-talk, worrying about the trivial, judging or trying to make yourself feel superior to others…you know what it is. Imagine what it would be like to be the dinner guest who doesn’t notice how he/she is dressed. And this isn’t to say they’re so out of reality that he/she walks around in their underwear all day; what it means is that they are solely focused on the divine importance of their lives.
Becoming the person we want to be is a divine right and a holy mission. It’s also a path of hardship, suffering, sacrifice, and examination. Is it worth it? To be the underdressed person at the dinner party? Would you want to know you’re underdressed and feel the embarrassment?
That’s for you to decide. What will you do?