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Think about the most difficult people in your life. The ones who try your patience, make the hair on the back of your neck stand up, get on your last nerve. Or, if you are more self-aware, perhaps this person is someone that you are just a bit jealous of. Regardless, think of someone like this and hold them in your mind. See the look on the person’s face, the clothes he or she is wearing, the environment or context in which he/she exists.. Visualize that thing they are doing – or not doing – to drive you crazy. Do you have the image?
Congratulations. You have just found your master.
A master is an expert, someone who teaches us something profound and life-altering. And this person – the one who “causes you” all of your suffering is master by teaching you that you have not mastered yourself.
They do not cause your suffering; you do.
They do not fill your mind full of negative thoughts; you do that as well.
They do not hold you back from moving in the direction you want to move or being the person you want to be; you are responsible.
While you cringe over people like this, reflect on the person you want to become. Why are you allowing this to happen? What are you getting out of it? And what is possible by holding on to these feelings?
Do yourself – and your career – a favor: when you encounter your master, give a bow. You have a lot to learn, and much to gain.