Something’s keeping you from feeling confident, and that will negatively impact your career. When one isn’t feeling confident it’s typically because of being in the wrong environment, working with the wrong people, not utilizing your skills in a way that’s best for you, or you are creating mental blocks and barriers that keep you from believing that you are worthy of success and happiness. See if any if you can relate to any of the following:
- Confidence for you could be doubting your ability to become the best in whatever career field you choose. Some people are relentlessly self-critical, but you take it to an extreme even though you are likely one of the best in your company, work-unit, or career field. Your standards of performance are in the stratosphere, likely unrealistically so. As far as your feelings, though, you may not specifically feel what you are experiencing as a lack of confidence: you could experience it as frustration, irritation, disappointment, or fear of failing. But it’s there. What is this costing you? And how realistic are you being?
- The matter and means by which you give and support others could have a strong impact on your confidence. You could be the type of person who hates to feel dependent on others, and the notion of not contributing – to adding value and being a strong team member – is difficult for you. Another way that your confidence could be robbed is to be in an environment where you are having difficulty figuring out what is supposed to be done or what your role in it is. You are on a mission to help others and to accomplish, and it is draining for you to try and figure out what you need to be doing and where you can best serve. What is keeping you from feeling confident about helping and supporting?
- Your confidence could be waning because you are way too constrained or you are surrounded by those who don’t appreciate your way of doing work. Your natural inclination to enjoy what you do, to create work that matters, to work with your hands as well as your head, and to offer it up to others for reaction and refinement. This is being repressed, and it hurts. But what’s worse is that you don’t feel good about yourself because of it: your creative and imaginative way of going about things is being impacted, and if you can’t bring your full self to your work, what’s the point of doing it?
- Your lack of confidence could stem from a lack of connection to your environment and others. You are a complicated person and your needs go beyond the trivial, mundane, and material. You are looking for meaning and connection; if you work with those who do not appreciate your gifts your confidence could significantly wane…to the point where your work and personal sense of stability suffers. What would it be like to be more wholly “you” where you work?
Sure, we all have our “off” days, but no one deserves to feel long-term lapses in confidence, and it’s critical for you to do the work necessary to find your equilibrium. Changes need to be made, either in your or in your environment. The work we’ll do together have you leaving more confident through a better understanding and appreciation of yourself: your values, your beliefs, your gifts, your preferences, and what threshold for what you will and will not commit to. Let’s do this.