“Stuck” is that feeling you have when you are not moving forward in the way that you would like. Momentum is robbed, and your energy and sense of self-worth likely is, too. If you’re feeling stuck, you might be experiencing any of the following:
- You could see so many possibilities that you are unsure which one to choose (imagine a hallway with hundreds of doors to open) or you are in a circumstance where you are struggling to find meaning and purpose: two essential components to your career. The result? No movement, feelings of helplessness and despair. Where do you need to shake off the cobwebs? What might you not be seeing, or what possibility could you choose?
- You have committed yourself to a particular career (which could be an institution or career field) and something needs to change. You could feel that those who don’t deserve it are getting more opportunities than you, that your hard work and work ethic isn’t being valued and appreciated, or that where you work is changing in ways that you do not like. What you’re debating internally is if what you’re feeling is really true (maybe you’re just in a temporary rut) and, if it is, what to do about it. What new possibilities do you need to open yourself up to? How are you keeping yourself stuck?
- You are robbed of your freedom or spontaneity, either by your circumstances, your choices, or by someone/something else. As someone who prides themselves on exploring and doing what they want on their own time, this is really damaging as it takes you away from your natural tendency to be creative, optimistic, and bold. No stimulation, no adventure, no action, no fun…this must be hell of you. What would your career be like if nothing changed? What is the effect this stress has on you?
- In your quest for knowledge and understanding your world, stuck could mean that your perfectionism or your feelings that you are failing are having their way with you. Whether it is analysis paralysis or the critical voice in your head won’t stop chattering, you’ve found your productivity is at a standstill…which – for someone like you – can be a fate worse than death. What does ‘perfect’ mean, and what is so important about it? What standard are you holding that is ultimately holding you back?
The thing about “stuck” is that it’s a fuzzy term…individual in how it is defined and very individual in how it’s experienced. One or more of the bullets above likely resonated with you (perhaps even more than one) but there are undoubtedly nuances that make your situation unique. If you’re willing, let’s get to the bottom of them. Be warned, though: it won’t necessarily be easy, comfortable, or linear. But I’m here with you as we work together to help you get unstuck.