Thriving is that sweet spot where you are performing at your best, are supported and energized by your environment, are surrounded by those who respect your work, and get that feeling of accomplishment and contribution through what you put out into the world. Here is what “thriving” may mean to you:
- Thriving could be the pursuit of knowledge and competence. Through your ambitious and autonomous nature, you thrive by not just understanding things but by mastering them and then by applying your knowledge in ways that are meaningful to you: teaching others or by adding to the general conversation of your topic of interest. Your ideal work environment isn’t one with a lot of needless emotion, sentiment, or irrationality: you thrive when things are getting done and/or when brilliant conversations can be had, producing work that you can be proud of. It’s time that you really did something; what is this that you need to do?
- Thriving could possibly be the freedom to do interesting and meaningful work…to become engrossed in the challenge it presents, the ability to approach it in creative and self-determined way, and the harmony and connection you feel when doing it. A magical career for you is one where you solve interesting problems…but the solving the problem isn’t the point: it’s the work, the task or activity and the extent to which you can focus on it is where you get your juice. Where the outcome is unknown and there are limits to test, this is where you want to be. To what extent are you feeling constrained, and what is that costing you? Where are you able to exercise your freedom and your love of spontaneity?
- Thriving might be leveraging your skills, experience, and passion to serve and contribute to something that’s meaningful and important to you. You thrive when you add concrete value and you can see the direct contribution you are making to the greater whole. It’s not to say that you are expecting a pat on the back (you’re so adverse to recognition that you might even bristle to read what I just wrote) because you feel warm and satisfied when you see the focus of your energy (which could be people or an institution like where you work or a not-for-profit you serve) bloom and prosper. What do you see growing through the contributions you’re making? What is feeding your energy?
- When you are thriving, you are making positive change happen in the lives of others. No matter what it is you’re doing (such as using your interpersonal gifts to inspire and persuade), there is a deep, rich connection with how what you are doing relates to a bigger, more self-actualizing plan. As you share ideas and attitudes, you connect it to a higher sense of purpose and meaning that transcends the tangible benefits of your work. You’re not in it for the money: you’re in it because it’s important and it matters. By helping others – being their cheerleader or champion – you relate it to your own journey of self-improvement and self-knowledge in a way that authentically resonates with your principles and values. What is the change you would like to create, the one that will resonate throughout the world?
To thrive means you have done the self-work necessary to not be misunderstood, misunderstand others, and find the environment where you can optimally contribute so that you derive meaning from your work. The work that we will do together will require you to be perhaps love yourself a bit more than you’re used to and to manifest the determination and grit that you might not have before…or you think you have, but haven’t. Ready?